https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/. What do you think I should do? And we have been meeting over the weekends for the past one year. She found another job, cause it pays better as well then we can actually date, cause she cant date customers as well as I. I think Im move venting then actually asking questions, but do you think Im doing the right move? I dont know what she wants me to do. My girlfriend told me she wants space and I dont know how to react to it or even what to expect and will she ever talk to me again?? Thank you for taking the time to read When She says She Needs Space. She recently asked for space and did not expect it because she told me that Im always there for her and no one has ever done as much as i did to always be there for her. I am so confused after all I have done for this lady, as well as my ex not even wanting to hear my side. Ok me and my wife have seperated and she said she was done. We ended up going out to drink 3 days later and she told me she wasnt happy and cried a little bit. Im feeling lots of things right now, but theyre no longer really how can I help her become a better version of herself, and instead they are more like I miss what we had and I miss her. Team Apollonia. I shushed my sister, after brunch me and my girlfriend went to the beach we had a good week, come Friday afternoon she told me wanted time for herself, and blocked me, I asked why but she seemed really bothered. Coincidentally this was the same day we had plans to go to an event together. Some may need a few weeks, while others may need a few months. Do I just keep waiting it out? Thanks! what to do. 100% you are doing the right thing. I hardly remember the convo and she hasnt text me since then. I saw her last weekend, have conversation with her friends but not with her (my bad maybe I was suppose to say hello only). I really hope you can and I look forward to hearing from you soon! i dont know where to start and what to do. I would highly suggest two things. She was a very independent woman before we met and started talking, has traveled the world by herself and with friends, and our communication has been fantastic up until now (she is very vocal in what she wants and when I do something she doesnt like.) -Apollonia, I have recently been in a relationship with a girl only 2 months, it was going very well and we both were being quite full on with each other and spending a lot of time together. You might have lost track of your personal life as you both possibly spent every waking minute together. Im not convinced its going anywhere though which is tough because I care about her a lot. Hello TJ, That same night I sent her my notes of how I felt everyday we were together, but only just the note of one day. The part im struggling with is if she wants clarity in her mind why is she telling me to give her space but not him? I have been with this girl for 6 Months now but she started loosing the excitement in the relationship i asked her she said shes doesnt love me the way I love her that she needs a break I have given her the break Im feeling Im loosing her I dont want to loose her my heart loves her What do I do. Hello Tomson! We havent texted all day and I just dont know what to do or how to feel. She is very upset at the moment after a misunderstanding last night, she believes we dont share the same values and following in to today she said she wanted space. We havent messaged since or seen each other since She said she still love me but she kinda dont know what she need to do right know. We had our introduction late November and surprisingly, after a late night phone argumen (was calling her and she was on a call for so long that unlike her, she will cut or call me back but she didnt, I was crossed). As I said before I am not trying to be rude to you or mean but I am being honest. My question is, would it be a good idea to send her a bouquet of flowers with a message and maybe including a gift such as an inclusive day by the pool for her and a friend of hers? Well, then I stumbled across this article When she says she needs space, heres what to do!. Now, she has blocked me from everything and i feel awful, taking advantage of and will never talk to her again. Ive always bent over backwards. Fast forward Jan. 18 they are finally divorced. When we first broke up i was fine, but 5 months later I am missing her like crazy. The only way to turn this feeling around for me is to initiate the contact myself like our coach said. She asked for space which I had abused through my constant text messages a few days prior to this. If you were too involved in the relationship and she needed space to analyze whether this is something that she wants, that space is going to be critical in this relationship, there is a significant chance that she could be feeling claustrophobic. It almost felt like a break up even though we werent officially together, Ive been so upset lately cause she says she wants me and wants a relationship with me but not right now. were in her space time. Now with this whole corona thing We always told each other that we are not playing any games. For some reason I feel insecure some times questioning it because she has days she is more matter of fact or distant. There might be a disconnect, or she might not have the same feelings for you. I replied ok if thats what you really need. And her mom is devastated. However, one day she was so bummed out. Recently she said to me that, she thought, there was a possibilty that I didnt see us as a serious thing. Katy Apollonias Assistant. She recently asked for space because she is confused. I hope you could reply and give me some advice on this. Wishing you the best Am I wrong to try and fix things fast since its possible we dont have much time? I woke up the next day and said sorry for last night being weird she replied that she was so happy that she can share things like with me and that now she knows Im here for her and she can count on me for anything and that she will be here for me as well this was a week before christmas. As time goes on and it stays like this you might get hurt unless you can turn this around into a relationship. When she says she needs space, heres what to do! Hey Tj, My girlfriend said she needed space after I had a bit too drink and asked if she saw us getting married. i dont understand.she repeat 4 times will see.until now.she act like ghost.after last call. This is a 4-day transformational retreat. I hope youre doing great , i want to thank you first for all the work and advises you share with us ,you are truly a blessing. Hi apollonia, Ive been with this girl for about 3 months and recently, I knew she was going through a tough time and I wanted to talk to her after school, she ignored me and started walking home so I walked with her and tried talking to her about it, I do feel like I was trying a little too hard and Im worried because she said she needed space and that she didnt need a relationship right now, we eventually got to her house and she told me she was going through alot and she slammed the door in my face. Hi there. I treated her like crap towards the end. Things were going great and she proposed to me but I wasnt ready yet and I said yes. She loves me. She said lets have coffee hang out and talk. Next i said i am really very sorry. But we went out and spent New Years together anyway. Ive been trying to focus on myself for the time being and work on areas I lack. She will see it when you showcase change. I gained an insight on how does she needs space in relationship. When we meet one night to talk. Yes, it still applies. What should I do? If there are things that you guys are fighting about thats reminding her of something you did in the past, then that might be something to look at. That is just amazing and we are so proud of you. Just let her be. Determine what is healthy and what is not healthy. Here are the links to my private one on one coaching and my membership I have not contacted her since. She was in shut down mode and trying to figure out what is happening in her life. Is this over and done, or should I attempt to reach within a week if no contact with her? At the end of the day you can only take responsibility for yourself and when you implement boundaries in your relationship and do not tolerate the neglected behavior, you can build a healthy relationship. Just head to this link: https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/ Thanks! I am very much hurt and dont know how will i get over it. What i need to do? Heres where you could go to connect with one of our amazing coaches. Later that night, again not able to consummate due to her pain level. I promised her before that whatever it is Ill be there for her even if its heaven or hell. Just a couple nights ago we were due to go away for 3 nights but the night before she asked if we can talk, on arrival she told me that shes not sure that the relationship was working out and that she feels like we have different values which would effect us in the long run and has a gut feeling of this. its just hard to play it cool 24/7. Im sorry that you are going through this as I know its incredibly difficult. Hey, Ive been spending time with a girl over the past few months pretty often. Hello Bradley, Apollonia. It is suddenly happen after i was hanging out with her. Thank you for reading, When she says she needs space, heres what to do! In order to get advice pertaining to your situation, I would encourage you to book a coaching session with her so she can help. I like the girl a lot, have been there for her and she has been there for me. But how much time should I not text her ? So, I valued this girl so much and wanted everything with her but was going through a lot of personal issues with family, finances, home life etc midway through our relationship and she poured so much love and affection towards me when I didnt really want it. cuz she took stand for me in evry worst situation and now i know i made mistake after seeing ur videos and articles will she ever initiate call or text or it jus over from her side??? To me it felt like we could fix these things and work on them however i just wish it wouldnt have happen that way. If this offended you in anyway then I'm sorry. Let her start to initiate hanging out with you. later on i kept trying to contact her but last week she blocked me on all socialmedias is this like she thought i keep disturbing her or she wanted to moveon? I took her virginity and weve only been dating a little over a month. Ironic since Im the one that alluded it was okay after our convo and she gave me like a few days after saying she needed space. When a girl says "I need space", is she preparing to break up? Do I walk away or can I tell me how to make her mine again. What were your weaknesses in this relationship that lead you to the point that she needs space? so I say heard u had a 4 way sleepover with 4 guys I know did u enjoy the sex. -Apollonia. I asked if she was talking to someone and she said she was. As I read your article. I love my ex so much and we are amazing together and both agree we have something truly unique, wonderful and give each other happiness. I tried calling but she didnt pick up and she wrote in her last text that she needs time clear her mind and think. I guess Ill just give her space and see what happens. Focus on your life and finding your own inner happiness. And she wants to spend her life with me and she is completely sure of it. I didnt contact her for a month until I sent her a message saying hey. As scary as that sounds you have to understand this will make the relationship shine and develop new boundaries or show its true colors. I really love her. Its really hard not too and her removing our pictures etc was heartbreaking shes never taken things this far before. I thought to text her but everyone told me not to text her and call her but i am thinking if i dont text and call her, will this not pull her apart from me? any news ,how are you ecc, Hi Jhon. We got really close and were even talking about marriage. Best of luck with everything and let us know if there is anything else we can help with. Ive made posts on social media about it. These fights would always affect my ex and I but we always made it work. Its important that you stand to respect yourself and the same vice versa. Hi Chris. I have been with my Girlfriend for just over two years she just told me she needs space and a break from the relationship because she needs to work on her. I know Apollonia would love to help you with your situation but she would need more information about what youre going through in order to advise you properly. Were inseparable, and our connection is beyond anything weve each had in our lives, to the point where we want to be in each others life forever (as what? The next day she said that shes not in a good head space (understandable from going through a break up + what we just did), and she said that she needs space for a little awhile. Its important she sees shes not first place in your life. We both live in different cities and twice a month we used to meet. Best of luck and take care! A few months ago I met this girl and right off the bat we hit it off. Should I text her after 1 week? Tuesday night tried calling her just to clarify things but she dis not answer but replied that she wants a more days to think things over. A few days after she messages me and asks how I am and proceeds to tell me that she misses to which I replied i miss you too, but I decided to keep the conversation light. Thank you so much. Its been a week since we last talked and Ive been kind of stressed and anxious that shes gonna move on and lose feelings for me for how long shes asking. We recently got intimate after just a few weeks of dating, and it was amazing. Im so sorry that happened. She would tell me that she loved me every day and our hearts were meant to connect with each other. But a couple months later she got kicked out and had no other place to go so I told her she can move in with me at my parents house in the meantime. You should let her I just want her back and her to trust me again? Is there a time when I should reach out to her if she hasnt contacted me? On the other we should just be less available. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/how-to-get-my-husband-to-notice-me-4-important-tips/ She claims that her previous boyfriends never stick around but I told her several times that Im not like them and that Im here to stay. I suggest you book one with me so we can get things going. Listen & Dont Put Pressure On HerIf this seems like a no shit, Sherlock statement to you, congratulations. Youre smarter than 90% of guys out there.Give Her The Time She WantsTheres an old saying you should take to heart. No but seriously. When she asks for space, give it to her on her terms.Figure Out Why She Wants SpaceIf shes already told you why she wants to step back, then you can skip this step. But if she hasnt, and youre still Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thanks. I think theres some underlying issues shes going through. That child is now grown. Should i send her subtle messages or anything like that? I have these negative thoughts about her not wanting to be with me anymore, or there being someone else in the picture but I know neither of these are true remembering the great times weve had and the emotions weve shared; also Im almost positive there isnt someone else in the picture, because she MADE time for me, shes very busy and driven and she decided that I could be in her life. It just depends on why the space was needed in the first place. Best, Good luck! Ive been dating a girl for a little over two months. She will come back. From the little info in this comment, it seems to me like she may just need some time to process what happened and how she feels about it. Thats why she wanted to break up. Thats a tough situation but this weeks podcast could definitely give you some clarity: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/write-your-legend/id1456127373?i=1000489100388 Its a month gone now and I feel deeply pained. Despite that we ended up together but sadly weve argued more especially within this time. Apollonia, Hi Jeremy, There is an adjustment period that is happening right now and a lot of people are getting to face themselves more, heal even deeper. I know Apollonia Ponti would love to help you with this! Hi appolonia, me and my girlfriend have been together over a year now and celebrated our first anniversary a couple of months ago, things were going great but around 8 months ago I messed up she found me looking at another girls profile a model who she knew in the past, we managed to resolve it and get past it and I managed to slowly build her trust back up over the past 8months however I messed up again and she found me looking at this model again, I literally have no interest or ever dream of leaving or cheating on her I literally love everything about her however she has had trust issues previously in the past before me, but now weve gone on a break and she wants some space to see what she wants, at first I was reluctant because I didnt think it would help just leaving each other alone and not talking about the situation but eventually decided to give her the space she asked for for a few days only, Ive had trouble completely leaving her be so Ive messaged her a fair few times, the last thing Id ever wanted to was hurt her and I definitely feel I cant lose her, were having a talk in a couple of days when I return home and Im just worried that it may be over, but do you think their is any chance whatsoever that I can recover from this and show how much I really do adore her like she is the love of my life and I just feel like after messaging her too much today while trying to give her space Ive messed up because she already had a few things going on before i made this mess, i was just wondering if i literally just leave her alone no contact for the next couple of days until we talk in person is that going to help my case even after the over contact on the first couple of days I would suggest booking a private coaching session if you need more help through this. Apollonia. Also, I believe this blog may help. So that night I was out and ended up at a bar she was at as well. WebTheres nothing in female psychology that says if you give her space shell just forget about you. I just want you to know you are not alone and with hard work and love, you can get to be the best version of yourself and start showing up like that. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ Make yourself busy during this time. I gave her space, just a simple hows it going message a day and thats it. I would advise you to book a coaching session at https://www.apolloniaponti.com so we can help! I would need more information. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/. I spoke to her sister which made her mad, a few days later I sent flowers, then I wrote a large letter answering all the questions shes been asking and detailing how our future would work and how our relationship would be different. Let her text you, let her call you, allow her to initiate contact with you. I tried to play it cool without texting her for the time being. I agree with everything Apollonio is saying. You are wrong about the last part. Also we had a little argument last Friday but I think she realized she overreacted because she texted me the day after with our normal daily texting. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! I wouldnt be able to give you an answer to your questions because, in order to help, Im going to need a lot more info. Now is your time to showcase strength instead of an attachment. Whenever her patient passed away or coded or had a bad day at work, she would have emotional breakdowns in the bathroom and I would stop what I am doing at work ASAP to call her and would sometimes leave work early and provided her the stability and gave comfort when she needed it and I was ready to assist by her side and asked her what can I do to better assist your needs etc. Then its time to book a coaching session with me so I can help get you there. She then said ill work on myself so I can be better for you. The worst mistake you can make when she wants more space is to ignore her needs. Apollonia, Hello Apollonia, I am very confused. Thoughts? She has had a very difficult time with just this, as well as with the COVID-19 crisis. Am afraid that not communicating with her, she will move on. Please book a session here. 6 things to do when she says she needs spaceAsk her to tell you precisely what she means. Read the book, focus on you. Im always holding her hand, kissing her, giving her foot and back rubs etc. Apollonia Ponti 644K subscribers 336K views 2 years ago She asks for space is so confusing at times. Before last day when she was coming back i sensed she is not behaving normal so i asked her what is the matter, she said she is worried about future and thats where i got really tensed i asked her tell me what happened but she said once shes back she will talk to me. I know I could get hurt badly, but after 5 years wouldnt I be a coward? The worst part is that from that relationship she now suffers from ptsd and depression. Hey, I was dating this girl for about a year and 3 months and just last month she decided that we needed space. depression meds . shes awesome a great girl. Focus on your hobbies, your life, building that up and fulfilling that. During this COVID-19 pandemic, I have been forced to work-from-home, as well as not go to the gym anymore (which as a powerlifter is very hard). Her dad died last August and since then our relationship went downhill. Apollonia. ive been talking to this girl for more than 1 year, i like her and i think she likes me too butwe never met in person. Hello Apollonia, she was in year 1 while I was in my finals in the University, we got to meet before the Corona break and I took her number and we started getting close and finally started dating by September. I cant bring this up with her, for obvious reasons. Hey hows it going do my issue is the girl I been dating for 2 months we went through a small rough patch She asked for space last Wednesday and I gave it to her did the no contact rule I even reflected on my self on what I did wrong which was I was a little pushy and persistent with certain things. I understand shes hurt and shes asking for space but what am I suppose to do?? We both cried sitting next to each other. She said that if she keeps going like this its only going to hurt me more and she just cant allow that to happen to me. I would like and comment on females pictures via Instagram and then ended up sending flirty messages to one woman (with no intention of ever meeting her btw, it was kind of like something to pass time while making me feel good away from reality). I really hope you find the time to reply to this Would love to know your thoughts So here I am looking up articles to do the best things fore me/us during this time.
